The self was unraveled, revealing its hidden depths
The process of “unmeshing” from a past relationship is not just about separating from someone else—it’s a journey into oneself. For FKA Twigs, the acclaimed singer with a voice that has enchanted global audiences, this disentanglement marked a profound period of self-discovery.
Describing her experience, the 31-year-old artist reflected on how a relationship intertwines every aspect of life—friends, family, routine, creating a shared existence. When that bond ends, the unraveling of this connection demands a re-evaluation of who you are without the influence of another. Twigs explained, “The unmeshing requires you to find out – well, I had to find out – who I truly was.” For her, this journey wasn’t about becoming someone entirely new but rather rediscovering and understanding herself as an individual, free from the external structures of a relationship.
Twigs, born Tahliah Debrett Barnett, was once engaged to Hollywood actor Robert Pattinson in 2015. Though their relationship ended in 2017 after two years together, it was a significant chapter in her personal growth. Following her split from Pattinson, she entered a relationship with Shia LaBeouf, further contributing to the personal and emotional landscape that influenced her latest album, “Magdalene.”
“Magdalene” became a powerful expression of self-prioritization within the complexities of love. Twigs noted how women are often raised to believe that they should feel grateful when a “Prince Charming” chooses them. She explained that this societal conditioning fosters a culture of passive acceptance rather than actively pursuing the love that aligns with one’s true desires. “Magdalene” served as her way to challenge these deeply ingrained societal expectations, a platform to reclaim her voice and write her own narrative.
This journey of self-reflection gave her a deeper appreciation for life’s simple joys. She shared, “I feel now that my time is precious, my body precious, words precious.” This profound shift in perspective allowed her to cultivate an environment that nurtured her well-being, helping her feel more open, softer, and lighter. “I giggle more,” she confessed, a sign of her newfound joy and inner peace.
The completion of “Magdalene” marked a pivotal moment in Twigs’ personal and artistic evolution. She described it as a new blueprint for how she wants to live her life and create her art. Through this transformative process, she emerged with clarity and purpose, a stronger sense of who she is both as a human and an artist.
Despite the end of her relationships, Twigs and Pattinson maintain an amicable relationship. In a recent interview, Pattinson confirmed that he remains on good terms with his exes, including Twigs and Kristen Stewart, acknowledging the respectful connections they shared.
Twigs’ journey of unmeshing is a testament to the transformative power of self-discovery, reminding us that personal growth often rises from the ashes of past experiences. This renewed sense of self brings a deeper appreciation for life’s precious moments and a clearer understanding of one’s true identity.
